I am my mother’s daughter
My mother asked my father for a divorce shortly after their
34th wedding anniversary. I remember
at the time thinking “Why bother now?” Of course when you are young it is hard to
think about life after 50, not to mention thinking about your parents as sexual
beings…I mean ICK!
I’d known my mom was unhappy in her marriage since I was
14. I constantly expected her to leave
my dad and for us to move away. Instead
she stayed, and stayed and stayed. By
the time I was 32 I figured she’d never leave, so it took me by surprise. It
also took my dad by surprise; even though she’d told him repeatedly that she
was unhappy he was shocked that she decided to end their marriage.
I thought about staying with my husband until the kids were
grown. Then it occurred to me, my mom
had done that. What did I learn from
her? How to stay in a miserable
marriage. So what was I teaching my
daughters?
My sister asked me why I decided to leave the Ex now. She claimed that he hasn’t changed since we
started dating. That seemed odd to me,
why would I want to be with someone who never changed after age 17? I’m almost 50…I’d like to be with a grown-up
thank you very much! I’d told him
repeatedly that I was unhappy and gave him warnings and ultimatums and he was
still shocked that I decided to end our marriage. I am my mother’s daughter…and I married my
father.
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